80% of everything in life is based on your mindset.
Back in November of 2019, I went to a Tony Robbins event called Unleash the Power Within (UPW). It was held in Miami. Florida, a 4 hour drive from where I live in Orlando. Before this event, I literally had no idea who Tony Robbins even was. ( He is a motivational speaker.)
One of my best friends Dillon works for Keller Williams, a realty company. Tony sends out people to promote/ sell his tickets months in advance all around Florida and they typically go places where they think they may find people interested in business, mindset, ect.
One of Tony’s people stopped by Dillon’s job and offered a way t0o a good deal to pass up! Don’t get me wrong, it was still a chunk of cash for me and I had no idea how I was going to come up with it and all the expenses, BUT I sure as hell knew I would make it happen.
It was time for a change.
Walking into this four-day event all I knew was shit, I needed something to change and apparently this guy was the guy to go to. The energy in the building everyday was amazing.
Seeing over 12,000 people come together to make changes in their lives was so inspiring. We all laughed, cried, screamed, danced, sang and we all walked out of that event a different person than we were before. 💫
I have never felt closer to my two best friends and had an outlook on life that I so desperately needed. UPW changed my thought process on life ya’ll! Forever grateful.
But of course, I was skeptical at the beginning. Walking in, I never would’ve expected the outcome that I got. I could go on forever about all the experiences and emotions I felt throughout the event but I am going to try and break it down for you.
This event changed my perspective on life and I’m about to change yours.
“If you want to change your life, trade your expectations for appreciation.”
Major mic drop. 🎤
Basically, Tony was explaining how in life we get disappointed so much because we hold certain expectations for others and/or environments we can’t control. We need to realize that we can only control ourselves physically and mentally.
Holding high expectations for others around us will only lead us into situations we aren’t complacent with. Instead of holding those expectations, we need to redirect our focus into appreciation. Appreciate the weather, your family, how cute those jeans make you look, Target, you get the point.
We all have so much to be grateful for and so much to appreciate in life.
Once you realize that and are able to tap into the amazing feeling of gratitude, you can overcome so much! Something I do to get into a grateful state of mind is by meditating using a technique taught at the event.
All it takes is 5-10 minutes and three steps.
1. Close your eyes and focus on three things you are grateful for, make them specific and tie them to memories. ( I thought of happy moments with my grandma before she passed, my wedding day and the home we bought after so many years of saving.) *Breath in and out slowly as you do this.*
2. Feel the energy through your breathing. Fill your lungs with the love, happiness and gratitude from your memories. ( Imagine the energy in a form of sunshine beaming down on you and filling up your body.)
3. Think of your past memories and transition them into creating future memories the way you hope them to be. ( Ex: I thought of myself 10 years from now, opening up a non-profit for mental health, making my grandma proud. I thought of renewing my vows with my husband and the both of us being financially free.)
Now open your eyes, whatever it was you thought of, hold onto it and in future times of stress think back to the past memories and those future ones you created. I do this every single morning. 🙏
Another cool thing I learned was the ability to change your state of mind. Everyone struggles with things that cause stress, disbelief, anger and sadness.
But it’s not what happens to us that defines us, it’s how we react to those things.
If we happen to be in any state that isn’t happy, he taught us to change our physiology by getting up and dancing or moving around to get the body out of that sad, mad, or stressed state.
Literally this man had 12,000+ people dancing and jumping around to music every like half hour. The energy in that stadium was always on point. 💃
So thank you Tony Robbins because I love to twerk and that is now how I change my physiology, by shaking it!! For some people it could be going for a walk, exercising. Whatever works, use. Just move!
The second thing we need to do is shift our focus. Whatever you focus on is what you feel. If you start to focus on the negatives, a great way to change it is by meditating on what you are grateful for like the exercise I explained earlier!
Now the one thing that truly blew my mind at this event was figuring out your limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs are basically little mental blockages holding you back from living your life the way you want.
During the event we had to write down 3 of our limiting beliefs.
Oh and I forgot to mention, we had to share alllll of this with someone new. Everyday I was hearing the stories of people, their struggles, their dreams. It was beautiful to see people who have never met you before, support you and listen to you and vice-versa.
My three limiting beliefs were:
1. If I fail, I will never succeed.
2. If I have anxiety and depression, I will never be able to overcome anything in life.
3. If I do not have money to start something, I could never make money.
After writing our limiting beliefs down Tony went on to explain about a client of his limiting beliefs and we were to try and guess how to turn those beliefs into empowering ones. The whole time everyone was secretly trying to guess who this “client” was because apparently it was a very well known person.
I remember thinking, “ is it Derek Jeter?! Brad Pitt? Obama?! I was super invested into this story.
His client’s beliefs were that “he felt like he was too young to be taken seriously, that because he didn’t go to college he wouldn’t amount to anything and how being overweight affected his ability to be happy.
Obviously, the story was way more in depth but at the end of it all the “client” of his was actually himself 40+ years ago! 😱
Instant mind blow! Tony Robbins himself believed he was not enough and look at how successful he is now! Hearing his story, everything he himself had been through and his capability to overcome it was the biggest eye opener for me.
Which is also why I wanted to start mentally capable. Hoping people could hear what I have been through or the story of someone else and realize that they are capable of overcoming absolutely anything.
Just an FYI
I changed my limiting beliefs into empowering ones. Here is what I believe now.
I am a boss ass female and my failures will only be well needed lessons.
My anxiety and depression don’t own me and won’t hold me down.
I don’t need money to make money. I have and always will have value as the person I am to create income!
I hope after reading this you use any of the takeaways I learned from the Tony Robbins event but I really encourage you to write down your limiting beliefs and turn them into empowering ones.
Just remember you are mentally capable of anything and you are so worthy of a happy life that you love. 💚
Always rooting for you, Neyda.